If you have children or if you are exposed to children--- talk to them.
Ask them what's happening in their lives; listen to what they have to say. According to psychologists from birth to around 8 years old is the imprint period for children, so whatever happens in that time frame is imprinted in them to carry forward in their lives.
We are all born with a clear, clean slate with total dependence on our mothers and fathers for love, food, shelter and guidance.
So, if they are exposed to trauma or some ongoing pattern they will carry that forward in life in their behavior. Children are very impressionable when young and their brains are like sponges soaking up everything that happens to them, that's how they learn so fast and well. Babies learn within hours from birth, that if they cry they will get the attention they require
Then, as they get older the people they are surrounded by shapes them. Teachers, friends, neighbors, religion, parents, siblings and other family all play a part in molding them to create their belief systems and values.
I know of people that have been told "you will never amount to anything" by teachers and been called "stupid" by their parents.
I also know of people that have been sexually, verbally and/or physically abused and it is very interesting to see how their lives have turned out.
When I was young all I wanted to be was a nurse. I joined St John's Ambulance Service when I was 10, volunteered at the local hospital and mum and dad paid for tutoring so I could pass year 12 Biology. Then I applied and was accepted into Nursing, which back then was a training hospital. At 17 it was my life's dream had come true!
In my second year of training I nursed my soon to be father in law who had terminal liver cancer, it was a very tough time caring for him at work as well as taking him home on weekends from time to time.
And then he died...
I didn't cope well with that, it was the first real exposure to the death of a "family" member. I had what they called back then a "nervous breakdown" and was unable to work.
I didn't go to a doctor because I didn't want any record of mental illness on my records and I didn't get any professional help. After a few weeks I returned to work and I was still assigned to the same ward. I walked into the room where my father in law had been and I had a vision of a decaying body in the bed --- I freaked out and went to the nurses' station where the head sister came to see me and said "I don't know why you are feeling this way, you should feel it an honor to have cared for a family member!" and then she sent me home.
I was summoned to the Matron of the hospital and basically given 2 choices - resign or be sacked! I resigned and then fell into a deep depression.
My dream shattered! I felt a failure...
Fast forward to today some 25+ years, and if you've read my story from my website can you see how I carried that forward in my life?
I wanted to "fix" people's problems and when I couldn't I felt a failure and I repeated the same pattern of depression --- WOW! Big realization for me.
The world and circumstances of that story I'm sure would be different today, however that's how I allowed my world to evolve.
So, if you have a recurring pattern in your life, think about where it first started and rewrite the scenario for yourself... Smash the mold of the belief or judgment you have on yourself.
Look for signs with children that you are involved with. Their behavior is a representation of what is going on in their minds, speak to them, guide them and above all if they need professional help do everything in your power to make it happen.
Children are our future... go create a Ripple
Ask them what's happening in their lives; listen to what they have to say. According to psychologists from birth to around 8 years old is the imprint period for children, so whatever happens in that time frame is imprinted in them to carry forward in their lives.
We are all born with a clear, clean slate with total dependence on our mothers and fathers for love, food, shelter and guidance.
So, if they are exposed to trauma or some ongoing pattern they will carry that forward in life in their behavior. Children are very impressionable when young and their brains are like sponges soaking up everything that happens to them, that's how they learn so fast and well. Babies learn within hours from birth, that if they cry they will get the attention they require
Then, as they get older the people they are surrounded by shapes them. Teachers, friends, neighbors, religion, parents, siblings and other family all play a part in molding them to create their belief systems and values.
I know of people that have been told "you will never amount to anything" by teachers and been called "stupid" by their parents.
I also know of people that have been sexually, verbally and/or physically abused and it is very interesting to see how their lives have turned out.
When I was young all I wanted to be was a nurse. I joined St John's Ambulance Service when I was 10, volunteered at the local hospital and mum and dad paid for tutoring so I could pass year 12 Biology. Then I applied and was accepted into Nursing, which back then was a training hospital. At 17 it was my life's dream had come true!
In my second year of training I nursed my soon to be father in law who had terminal liver cancer, it was a very tough time caring for him at work as well as taking him home on weekends from time to time.
And then he died...
I didn't cope well with that, it was the first real exposure to the death of a "family" member. I had what they called back then a "nervous breakdown" and was unable to work.
I didn't go to a doctor because I didn't want any record of mental illness on my records and I didn't get any professional help. After a few weeks I returned to work and I was still assigned to the same ward. I walked into the room where my father in law had been and I had a vision of a decaying body in the bed --- I freaked out and went to the nurses' station where the head sister came to see me and said "I don't know why you are feeling this way, you should feel it an honor to have cared for a family member!" and then she sent me home.
I was summoned to the Matron of the hospital and basically given 2 choices - resign or be sacked! I resigned and then fell into a deep depression.
My dream shattered! I felt a failure...
Fast forward to today some 25+ years, and if you've read my story from my website can you see how I carried that forward in my life?
I wanted to "fix" people's problems and when I couldn't I felt a failure and I repeated the same pattern of depression --- WOW! Big realization for me.
The world and circumstances of that story I'm sure would be different today, however that's how I allowed my world to evolve.
So, if you have a recurring pattern in your life, think about where it first started and rewrite the scenario for yourself... Smash the mold of the belief or judgment you have on yourself.
Look for signs with children that you are involved with. Their behavior is a representation of what is going on in their minds, speak to them, guide them and above all if they need professional help do everything in your power to make it happen.
Children are our future... go create a Ripple
